life being dolly

At least that what i read but i have not yet met any of my girl friends that in this kinda situation. most of us are mature enough to handle the past.

problem : I hate my husbands ex

why? : You feel undeserving, and that leads to you feel not enough for him… which leads to anger…which leads to jealousy…which leads to grief. However the only reason for your grief is that you feel not good enough in comparison and you are just afraid if somehow she is better than u in one way or another. and u are just afraid if your husband is secretly still in love with his ex.

solution : Yes, she’ll always be part of his past, but you’re his present and future. Sounds like you’re torturing yourself. Stop it. She’s not your competition, you won the best prize. Your husband is with YOU. The first thing..stop stalking her on facebook. Stop bringing up her name or anything about her to your husband. If you see her in town, look the other way..or say hello. Whatever, be the bigger person. Live your life, get busy doing something else, and gain self esteem about yourself and your relationship. Put the energy you are wasting on her into improving your relationship with your husband and you will be much better off. and no matter what it is, she is not better than u in one way or another because God ended their feelings towards each other so that your husband can meet a better person and that person is YOU! if u think she’s more beautiful than u, don’t worry, cos when a man loves a woman, she is the most beautiful woman in this world. so no matter who is more beautiful between u n his ex, in your husband’s eyes, u are the most beautiful woman in the world. men moves on easily once they found new love. this is a confession from majority of men. here’s an example, “  I never think of mine, there is a reason he is with you, I tell my girl that if I had a crystal ball I would have been with her from the start, but I wasnt and everything I went through with my ex made me a better man today. I’m sure its the same with him, all that time he spent with his ex made him better and im sure he appreciates you ” ..

Salah tu… Yg penting dia tau tanggungjwb sbg suami dan menunaikn tgjwb nya sbg suami dgn baik.. Kalau pun dia bkn pemuzik tetapi tidak bertanggungjwb,apa guna d ambil sbg suami.. Tak kisah la kalau berambut pjg atau selekeh, yg penting dia mnjlnkn tgjwb sbg suami dgn baik. :)

Sebagai wanita yg menjaga maruah keluarga dan menjaga harga diri dan bermoral,adalah tidak senonoh jika kita membawa ibu bapa kita berkenalan dgn semua ibu bapa boyfriend kita setiap kali kita tukar boyfriend. Ini adalah perkara paling tidak senonoh pihak perempuan lakukan. Ini seumpama perigi mencari timba… Dan sudah byk timba d cari tp tak jd… Adik oi.. tak kan la kalau 100kali kau tuka boyfriend 100kali juga la mak bpk kau berkenalan dgn keluarga baru.. Hal ini sangatla menjatuhkan maruah keluarga dan harga diri kita sbg wanita. Sepatutnya si lelaki dan keluarga lelaki lah yg bertandang k rmh kita jika mereka mahu. Bukan kita perempuan dan keluarga pihak perempuan terhegeh-hegeh k rmh laki menghantar diri minta d beli.. Cis!

Sbg parent pihak perempuan,kita x d bnarkan menziarahi terlebih dahulu rmh pihak lelaki sbb seumpama kita pihak perempuan mahu mempromosi ank perempuan kita ke rmh laki n mcm jual bunga rmh k rmh. Bunga yg sdah d petik n d jual rmh k rmh tu dah tak fresh oi.. Dah nk layu kna panas. Haha! Sepatutnya mengikut adat,pihak keluarga lelaki haruslah terlebih dahulu menziarahi rmh pihak perempuan tanda keikhlasan si lelaki ingin memetik bunga d taman apabila sudah cukup masa bunga utk d petik. Bunga yg d jual rmh k rmh tu biasanya madu dh hbs d hisap oleh kumbang lain before bunga tu cukup matang utk d petik. Bagi mengelak anak/bunga tu x laku,mereka jual la rmh k rmh. Haha!! Korang nak ke beli bunga dh nk layu? Bukan itu saja,mengikut adat,adalah haram sama sekali ibubapa pihak perempuan dan ibubapa pihak lelaki berkenalan dan mesra tetapi tidak mengadakan hubungan separa sah/sah antara anak mereka. Ini kerana jika berlaku perpisahan,jatuhlah maruah dan harga diri pihak perempuan.ye lar..mana tak nya,bunga dh jnji nk d petik,tp tak d petik. Malu bang oi.. Adalah sebaiknya jika blom bersedia utk memetik bunga,jgn la membawa ibubapa berkenalan bg mnjaga maruah kedua pihak. Sbg lelaki yg baik,jika sdh berkenan dgn bunga,hantarla ibubapa k rmh pihak perempuan utk meminta hbgn separa sah utk menjaga sang bunga.jgn suka hati hanta mak bpk kau tp takda minta ikatan.. Murka tuhan tengok ibubapa menyokong anak2 berzina..mana tak hbgn tak mnjadi sbb tak d restu allah. Yg perempuan dan ibubapa pihak perempuan d nasihatkan jgn la jd spt perigi mncari timba. Jgn la jd spt mempromosikan bunga jagaan anda dari rumah ke rumah.. Jatuh harga ank perempuan kau kalau kau buat camtu..sekian…